I, um...initially I didn't think I had anything to ask, but the more I think on it, I think there is something I could use some advice on.
Not about courtship or romance or anything of that sort, I've...already sorted all that out to my satisfaction. I'm happily married, in fact, to my best friend from childhood. I love him with all my heart.
And I've been separated from him for almost...Gods, five months now. And it promises to be even longer than that.
Normally I can deal with having to live with that; I keep busy enough and I've made many good friends since I arrived here, many dear ones in fact. It's only occasionally, mostly at night, that the loneliness and heartache becomes...difficult. But it's been manageable so far.
But this month I can already tell is going to be harder. I don't wish to sound, or be like a stick in the mud, I'm actually quite pleased at the idea of a holiday celebrating love in all its forms, but at the same time it's also a reminder of the man I love, and the hole in my life that comes from his absence. And I have important work to do this month, and I can ill afford the distractions.
So, I guess my question is...how do I deal with it? I fear even when this month passes, as my stay here on Vaikuntha becomes more extended, my ability to deal with these episodes might become more difficult to deal with and I honestly don't know how I might shore up my defenses. Any coping strategies the two of you could help me figure out would be greatly appreciated.
...Oh, and congratulations to the both of you! I don't know either of you half as well as I should like, but I can see how happy the two of you are, and it's wonderful. I wish you both the absolute best.
I'm sure our mutual friend agrees as well, Madhuri. Hee.
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Not about courtship or romance or anything of that sort, I've...already sorted all that out to my satisfaction. I'm happily married, in fact, to my best friend from childhood. I love him with all my heart.
And I've been separated from him for almost...Gods, five months now. And it promises to be even longer than that.
Normally I can deal with having to live with that; I keep busy enough and I've made many good friends since I arrived here, many dear ones in fact. It's only occasionally, mostly at night, that the loneliness and heartache becomes...difficult. But it's been manageable so far.
But this month I can already tell is going to be harder. I don't wish to sound, or be like a stick in the mud, I'm actually quite pleased at the idea of a holiday celebrating love in all its forms, but at the same time it's also a reminder of the man I love, and the hole in my life that comes from his absence. And I have important work to do this month, and I can ill afford the distractions.
So, I guess my question is...how do I deal with it? I fear even when this month passes, as my stay here on Vaikuntha becomes more extended, my ability to deal with these episodes might become more difficult to deal with and I honestly don't know how I might shore up my defenses. Any coping strategies the two of you could help me figure out would be greatly appreciated.
...Oh, and congratulations to the both of you! I don't know either of you half as well as I should like, but I can see how happy the two of you are, and it's wonderful. I wish you both the absolute best.
I'm sure our mutual friend agrees as well, Madhuri. Hee.